Only you can answer that. Are there children involved? Were you two still friends? Have you seen or spoken to in those 50 years? Look inward for your answer.
I agree with Echo and Toni. I am sorry for your loss. I would want to add... How did/does the family feel about you? And do you need closure?
thats up to you
Need to show your humane face wouldn't hurt to show up. Remember you once shared your life with him and if it means anything? Go ahead and turn up.