I understand that you may believe I'm a bad person, but I only had 100 words to express as much as I could initially. He actually had 'self-diagnosed' himself prior to us getting together. Yet, he never once told me about his suspicions. We have tried counseling, Ive read up on the illnesses he has for the past 8 months, and done all the things I'm supposed to do. But things are not any better. I have 3 children from a previous marriage, and now I feel as tho I have a 4th child living in the home. My husband has to be reminded daily to bathe, brush his hair, his teeth and do typical things that a grown man should know to do. He is 26 years old, yet his brain functions at a much younger age. He is immensely intelligent, but lacks what most would call common sense. I feel as tho I am spending more of my time 'mothering' him than my own children, and that is not fair to the kids. Had I known he had these issues prior to getting married, I would not have married him. He did not seem selfish before we were married, it was only after we had started living together that things became devastatingly obvious that something was amiss. For many months I put it off to him being newly married and did not understand the proper etiquette. When we got the diagnosis for AS, I felt relieved, because now we knew for sure what was happening. He knew it would take extensive counseling and a lot of change on both our parts to make our marriage work. He has yet to take one step forward in this process. It has been 8 months, and we are no further along than we were previous to the counseling or diagnosis. If you still wish to believe me a bad person, then you have the right to your opinion. But in my heart I believe my children should be who I am concentrating on, and not making sure my husband remembers to bathe.
