If you have made up your mind that you really want a divorce and you don't want to be in this marriage anymore, there is no reason to to go to counseling. People in counseling should be trying to make things work and resolve their issues. It not about going back on a decision, it is about being sure that you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that divorce is what you want. Don't let other people influence you, after all this is your life. Eleven years is a long time, and if you were not happy why continue on?
