If there is no court order, legally you do not have to pay her anything. Morally, if you get a dna test performed to make sure it is your child, you should, as a man, support tour child financially, emotionally and physically. That is the reason they set up child support because if you do not take care of your child, you will be forced to by the courts.
I've been paying her child support for over two months. We are not divorced. She kicked me out and I started paying support for my two boys. I am unemployed and the first week was a waiting week. So I don't get a check. My wife said I still have to pay that week. Is that true?
Without a court order on child support, you need not pay anything; however, child support is often retroactive to the time you first received notice of the legal action for support. However, your ex may deny receiving any payments, thus you need to retain copies of any cashed personal checks (front and back) and memo "CHILD SUPPORT," although the more prudent course is to wait for the court order.
My advice to you is pay it through a bank or post office and make sure you keep all your receipts as well women are so bitchy when they want to and I'm a woman
I hope I don't offend you with what I am about to say, but here goes. I really understand your anger towards your so to be X wife. But we are talking child support here. Not how you feel towards your X. Child support is for the child. You may feel you are benefiting your X by paying. But in reality, you are helping support your child. As long as you know that you have put forth all effort in financially doing your part, no matter how the money is truly spent, you should feel like the better person. If you and your X have problems then so be it. But why should that baby have to suffer because the two of you can't come to an agreement. When that child gets olker do you want her to ask you why you never financially supported her?
take it from women who know, just keep paying her on time and do,and I mean do keep receipts and records of all kind. The judge will actually go back to the day you split up and say that you owe from that day, and he could even say that you didn't pay enough. Make sure you pay with cashiers checks or money orders, and make sure you keep up with every time you pay and every time she tells you no about visitation or phone calls, a good defense is always a better offense. Keep records of every thing, because I really hate to say this but your a man and you really have a very slim chance so be prepared and remember, its not about you or your soon to be ex, its about the child. So be the bigger person and do what you think is right because in the end it doesn't matter, that baby will remember when you won't.
Ok I don't have a court order, but I still pay in cash to her. She is recieving medicaid, food stamps, ssi for the kids, will the court still come after me.
I would have went immediately to court. As long as you have receipts for payment. My Fiance of 4 years is going through this but he saved all his receipts and still won't go to court. She even took off to a different State with his kids. He's crazy for not taking her to court. All she ever wants is money and he cowers and pays, yet he still don't get to talk the kids or see them that much. I have never even met his kids because SHE won't allow it. He's o.k with that, because he never see's them. He kisses her butt and get's nothing in return but grief and nasty text messages. I swear she's bipolar. She certainly has those kids brain washed against me and him. She doesn't even know we're engaged. He's afraid to tell her. He's way over paying since he lost his job. He wasn't even married to her! At least he loves his children enough to pay for them, but someones got to take someone to court. I can't deal with another 10 years of her bull or harassment! My heart goes out to you! As long as you keep taking her to court, you're good. However good news is have you ever heard of "Malicious Mother Syndrome" or "Parental Alienation Syndrome" It's against the law. Look it up on ask.com then contact your lawyer, if you can't afford one try legal aid where you live. Good Luck! Butterfly444
I am going to sign off after answering this question because I find myself getting angry at the number of people that are so concerned about getting away with not doing the right thing, and that is take care of your child! You should pay child support with a court order. You should pay child support without a court order. You should pay child support simply because that child needs the financial and emotional stability that he or she deserves. Why is it so easy to make a child, yet so hard to get someone to step up to the plate after the fact and simply do the right thing? I do not understand or condone ANYONE that does not want to take care of a child they helped bring into the world, and I mean this for men or women. If you are that greedy that you don't want to take care of your child, I sure hope you don't have anymore. It does seem however, that people like you keep having them, then when the relationship turns sour, you spend much of your time trying to get out of what you should as a decent human being do in the first place. Child support insures or helps see that your child has a coat to wear to school in the wintertime, it helps them to EAT. Do the right thing! Take care of your child or children!
