It shouldn't matter because the adoption already went through, making him the father legally. Unless he is an unfit parent and she can prove that, which doesn't sound like it, then there isn't any problem. But what a mean spirited women to take the child out of his life. She needs to think about the child and not her selfishness. Well good luck and I hope all goes well.
I was adopted by my step-grandmother when I was six. He will not lose his daughter, because he obviously cares and loves her enough to adopt her. Legally, the child is both his and hers. There will be a normal custody hearing. He may compromise with his ex and strive for joint custody, which would be best for the child. Unless, however, she is doing this for child support and benefits. No matter what the judge decides, he should maintain his relationship with his daughter and not give up and desert her. All that matters is his relationship with his daughter. My parents were wonderful to us, even though we had a very difficult childhood and were extremely poor. Trust me, that whole biological thing is a crock of ****! I don't feel anything toward my birth parents. There is nothing there, I have tried time and time again. My bond is with my mom and dad who have loved me and cared for me my whole life. Please tell him this, so that it will give him hope and reasurrance! The baby needs him and he should fight for her.
Yes it is parents fight custody all the time take it from a man who never saw his dad but glad my mom got custody over me, if both parents got a divorce and become biological then there shouldn't be adoption it only means she left her with him and there for given temporary custody so they have to take it to court
I am in the same boat literally. Unfortunately, the courts and many people look at this situation as the man is only trying to get out of paying child support even though it looks like the situation was more of the woman fleecing him. In my case, the Texas Family Code was not followed and the attorney (her brother) asked a personal favor from the judge and the adoption paperwork was signed while I was severely depressed with PTSD and not taking medication all within a month of returning from an 18 month tour in Afghanistan. Currently, I am paying 1/2 of my income (not the 25% as state guidelines) to my soon to be ex-wife who took 90% of our belongings and all of our savings. All I can say is... GOOD LUCK!!!
This is too much of a gray area, and the best thing to do is to go and talk with a lawyer about it. It isn't really all that much $ when you think about the welfare of the child. Hope this helps, good luck.
I would hope so . I know someone in this very situation , and does deserve a chance to prove him self . He was taken for over 90% of his income for alimony and child support , them was unable to support himself . I know this sounds crazy but his ex wife's family had great connections with every family court judge in the area . Then unable to support himself and hire a good attorney , for more custody hearings to come . Started missing work to be at these hearings , then when his paychecks where short from missing work , fell behind on payments . When he got behind on the payments was taken to prison for back support . Went in owing 1000 dollars came out owing 3400 dollars ! With all of his income already being taken he could not catch up , since he obviously couldn't catch up kept going back to prison every 2 or 3 months . He was behind over 15000 dollars , no possible way to catch up . His ex offered him a solution , if he would sing the papers for her new husband to adopt she would forgive the debt and still let him be a part of his daughters life . With no other options singed the papers . She never honored her word , he hasn't seen the girl in 4 years . Now his ex has passed away from a drug over dose , he new husband at least knew she was using in the house . It is unknown if he was also using with her . The biological father has always wanted to be there , but especially now is worried for his daughter ! He did make some mistakes by signing the papers to let her be adopted . He did it without having legal counsel because he had no money left to hire a lawyer , he was also young and naive at the time ( 22 years old ) . Now he was taken advantage of put in an impossible situation . I do believe this was her plan from the start after the divorce . This man is older now and provides a good , safe home for his new baby boy , and is an excellent father . He still wants to at least be a part of his daughters life and just wants to have the opportunity to know her and make sure she is safe .
