I worked in prisons as a counselor for a couple of years. Your husband is in another world that you can't even imagine. Life is way different in there and the rules and mores are not like ours out here. So, for excitement, he may entertain fantasies like being with a young girl half his age just to make life seem worth living. However, I feel that is weak and that he should remember who will be there for him when he gets out. Maybe, no one.
I don't recommend continuing a relationship like you are doing. You must be going out of your mind with worry. Yet, in reality, there is nothing he can actually do but fantasize. However, you should give him a dose of reality and tell him to cut the crap or you are moving on. Don't answer the phone for a while when he calls, if you are into games, and he will realize just how alone and helpless he is.
If you care about your own mental health, move on and find a man who isn't into petty fantasies. How is this kind of activity going to improve a relationship? Why else would you want to interact with someone if not to improve things?
Good luck and use your head now instead of your heart.
I am glad you added more comments to your situation
"he has been cheating on me since we have been together" This means there is no trust, which is a key ingredient in healthy relationships.
"He says that he is writing to these women because he wants more money." Obviously he has no issues in leading on other women with his lies, which means he has no issues in doing the same to you
"He is very abusive to me and I filed for a divorce" There is no excuse or reasonable explanation for abuse. It is simply wrong and intolerable
"but he has been crying to me to get me back, he says he loves me while telling them he loves them" This is probably a true statement for him, but clearly he lacks the ability to not be so selfish about him
Abusive men are low self esteem creatures with no regard for others feelings. It is about control. Recognize abuse is more than just physical but also emotional and psychological. Save your money for yourself since he is having no issues in getting from other women and move on to a better fitted relationship as you deserve it
1. Mutual TRUST for without it is constant doubt
2. Mutual RESPECT for without it is eventual resentment
3. Mutual COMPROMISE for without is is a one-sided self sacrificing relationship
ALL 3 should apply in both friendships and family for success. Good luck and much prayers
I was in a 5 yr relationship of psychological and emotional abuse. Happily recovered and happily married using Relationship 101. It seems you are missing all 3 in the relationship with your husband. It is time for him to be an ex and you to find another after you find yourself
Sounds like he is very insecure and looking for an ego boost. That is also probably the reason for his making your life hell if you were to date someone else.Men like this do not change. They are liars,cheaters and manipulators. You should leave him and enjoy life. If he tries to make your life hell, get a PFA on him and he will have no choice but to leave you alone or go back to jail. I think you really need to have someone in your life who will show you love,trust,honesty,respect. And you should not allow this guy to manipulate you anymore. He IS cheating and talking to other women. You heard it straight from the other woman's mouth. She has no reason to lie, but he does.
Why would you even think of staying with someone who went to prison???What did he go for??? I would get out of this relationship seen as he has been calling his girlfriend and tell him to go to hell!!!!! There are plenty of very nice men in the world and I am sure you can find one if you really want to. Better yet get to know yourself better and know what you really want before you go with another man you may just find you like yourself without a man in your life.
You need to talk to him and get the facts straight. Don't ever just believe people especially if you don't know them. But only you know. You know your man. And if you don't trust him that is another thing. Trust and communication is number one in a marriage. You need to be straight with him and let him know what you know. You will find out the truth sooner or later.