Oscar De La Huerte answered
First and foremost, I would recommend persuading your boyfriend to get some legal advise.
If his ex is as vindictive and upset as you make her sound, there is a chance she'll up and leave with his daughter eventually anyway.
As far as what you can do to help the situation, I'd say you're going to have to come clean about the relationship eventually- so you need to help your boyfriend understand this.
Boyfriend's ex might take his daughter away because of me
It sounds to me like you're in a bit of a sticky situation.
Whilst I'm sure you don't want to have to keep your relationship a secret forever, you also don't want to risk seeing your boyfriend lose his daughter.
I think the answer to the problem really lies in what your boyfriend is willing to do.
My boyfriend won't tell his ex about me
It sounds to me as if he's too scared of provoking his ex, and this is something that will loom over your lives until he addresses it.
As far as what you can do for him to help him overcome the problem, there are two things:
If his ex is as vindictive and upset as you make her sound, there is a chance she'll up and leave with his daughter eventually anyway.
As far as what you can do to help the situation, I'd say you're going to have to come clean about the relationship eventually- so you need to help your boyfriend understand this.
Boyfriend's ex might take his daughter away because of me
It sounds to me like you're in a bit of a sticky situation.
Whilst I'm sure you don't want to have to keep your relationship a secret forever, you also don't want to risk seeing your boyfriend lose his daughter.
I think the answer to the problem really lies in what your boyfriend is willing to do.
My boyfriend won't tell his ex about me
It sounds to me as if he's too scared of provoking his ex, and this is something that will loom over your lives until he addresses it.
As far as what you can do for him to help him overcome the problem, there are two things:
- Support him- Knowing that someone has got his back will make him feel more confident in tackling the situation. Try not to pile on the pressure, but at the same time stand up for your relationship. This is easier said than done, but I'm sure you're capable of it!
- Help him get some legal advice- Once he realizes his legal options and rights, he might feel a lot more secure about things. Whilst court should be an option of last resort- it's important to get your homework done early just in case.
