lakeesha Hennessy Williams answered
The answer to this question might be simple, but actually doing it will be one of the hardest things you will ever do.
You need to leave him, and you need to notify the authorities- it's easy to say this, but actually doing it is a whole other thing.
What to do if your husband beats you
As someone that has been in an abusive relationship, I can really relate to both sides of this story.
From the outside, there's nothing more frustrating than seeing someone trapped in a violent relationship.
Often the person involved knows they need to get away, but they simply feel like they can't.
When there's children involved, the whole thing gets a lot more complicated.
As someone that has been on the receiving end of domestic violence before, I understand that you might not want to give up on the relationship.
When I was with the guy that beat me, I kept coming back because of all the wonderful things about him.
But eventually you will realize that no wonder how great he is- if he can't control his temper then he simply doesn't deserve to be with you. The key is whether that moment of realization will come in time!
Getting out of a violent relationship
The thing that finally got me to give up on my violent partner was one night when he took things too far and knocked me unconscious. He then left the house with me lying on the floor out cold, with out 6 month old daughter left unattended.
This made me realize that the situation was starting to affect the well-being of my kids, and that is when I managed to break that fear barrier.
And essentially, that's the issue. If you are stuck in an abusive relationship- it is because you are more afraid of being without him than you are of being with him.
If you let things continue, that balance will change- trust me! But do you really want to wait for it to happen?
He can threaten to find you, kill you, take your kids away- but you can't let any of that intimidate you. These are exactly the kind of threats that a bully would use when he's afraid of losing control.
There's more support than ever before for abused women, so don't hesitate for one second more. Get in touch with an organization like Women's Aid as soon as possible.
Calling them doesn't mean you've decided to leave him for good or anything like that, but it's the first step to admitting there's a problem you need help dealing with.
You need to leave him, and you need to notify the authorities- it's easy to say this, but actually doing it is a whole other thing.
What to do if your husband beats you
As someone that has been in an abusive relationship, I can really relate to both sides of this story.
From the outside, there's nothing more frustrating than seeing someone trapped in a violent relationship.
Often the person involved knows they need to get away, but they simply feel like they can't.
When there's children involved, the whole thing gets a lot more complicated.
As someone that has been on the receiving end of domestic violence before, I understand that you might not want to give up on the relationship.
When I was with the guy that beat me, I kept coming back because of all the wonderful things about him.
But eventually you will realize that no wonder how great he is- if he can't control his temper then he simply doesn't deserve to be with you. The key is whether that moment of realization will come in time!
Getting out of a violent relationship
The thing that finally got me to give up on my violent partner was one night when he took things too far and knocked me unconscious. He then left the house with me lying on the floor out cold, with out 6 month old daughter left unattended.
This made me realize that the situation was starting to affect the well-being of my kids, and that is when I managed to break that fear barrier.
And essentially, that's the issue. If you are stuck in an abusive relationship- it is because you are more afraid of being without him than you are of being with him.
If you let things continue, that balance will change- trust me! But do you really want to wait for it to happen?
He can threaten to find you, kill you, take your kids away- but you can't let any of that intimidate you. These are exactly the kind of threats that a bully would use when he's afraid of losing control.
There's more support than ever before for abused women, so don't hesitate for one second more. Get in touch with an organization like Women's Aid as soon as possible.
Calling them doesn't mean you've decided to leave him for good or anything like that, but it's the first step to admitting there's a problem you need help dealing with.
